Everything, Everything is in fact…EVERYTHING!

 

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I. Am. In. LOVE! This movie touched my soul and for more reasons than it is sweet as can be.

First, let me start by saying, I purchased and I read the book the minute I saw the first trailer drop. Anyone who knows me or who has been following this blog knows that I love swirling. Particularly with a Black woman and White man (or any man for that matter). Just so long as a Black woman is being loved on. So the concept appealed to me enough to make me snatch up the book, even though I don’t alway read YA (Young Adult) novels.

The book, written by a Black woman who is married to a Korean-American man, is sweet, original, and creative. In between the story are illustrations that the main character Maddy has drawn. It’s just another element that pulls you into the story. The love between Maddy and Olly is sweet, innocent, and pure. You can’t help but root for them.

 

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So I went into the movie today with high hopes. I was so not disappointed. In fact, this may be the first time that a movie based on a book is as good if not better than the book. They cleverly found a way to express the email/text conversations between Maddy and Olly, which is how they mostly communicate in the beginning of their relationship. But the way they translated it to film, only enhanced their chemistry. And some of the sweet things Olly did for Maddy in the film, made the romance so much better than even the book.

 

 

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The casting was phenomenal. Amandla Stenberg and Nick Robinson were cast perfectly and their chemistry was off the charts. The way he looked at her made it feel like he truly did love her. Either he’s one fantastic actor or he’s got a little crush on his leading lady. Or maybe that’s just me and my hopeful little fantasy world I’m living in.

 

The soundtrack was also amazing and eclectic. I’m thinking about purchasing it too.

But what really touched me that I mentioned at the beginning of this review? What made tears run continually down my face throughout the movie? Finally seeing a Black girl fall in love on the big screen.

Those who are not a part of the minority cannot understand or fathom what it is like to grow up NEVER seeing someone that looks even remotely like you falling in love on the big or small screen. I literally wept for the 13-18 year old me, who never got to see a black or brown girl fall in love as I grew up. The Molly Ringwalds of the world, the Teen Witches, the Brendas, Kellys, and Donnas of the world were the norm and the standard. So much so that I didn’t even realize that I was missing anything.

Until today.

I cried because I didn’t know how much I wanted…no, needed to see that on a 5,000 square foot movie screen. I cried because it was 20+ years too late. I cried because I was so damn happy that I was finally seeing it. And it was…glorious.

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But now I want more. And to get more, I need EVERYONE to go out and see this movie. I need Hollywood to understand that we desperately want and need more of this. So that they’ll be willing to produce more. For teens and adults alike.

I want to go to movies celebrating women of color finding love and being loved. But even movies like Waiting to Exhale, The Best Man movies, Something New, etc didn’t bring me to tears the way Everything, Everything did. Which lets me know that more than anything, our young girls desperately need to see black and brown girls falling in love and being loved.

We can’t let them down!

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Can I Love White Men and Still Support BlackLivesMatter?

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So, obviously I’m a black woman. I’m also a black author that writes Interracial Romances. As well as being a black woman that has had mostly white and Latino friends most of my life. A black woman that has dated the rainbow, but mainly white men. I’m also a black woman that supports Black Lives Matter. Is that even possible, you ask?

Absolutely.

I’ll admit, as soon as I saw the hashtag BlackLivesMatter, I was like “Oh sh*t, here we go!” Not because I didn’t see the need for the movement. But because I knew, I KNEW, whites and some non-blacks were going to lose their ish over it. And I was right. So I remained relatively silent on the issue because I have white friends that I didn’t want to alienate. I also have new black friends through my writing who have posted articles and videos and stories about injustices that I couldn’t ignore.

As tension grew in this country, I unfortunately or fortunately, depending on who you’re talking to, could stay silent no longer. Just because I find an attraction to men of races outside of my own and friends with little to no melanin, does not mean that I have forgotten that I have a black father, brother, nephews, uncles, cousins and friends. These men are my world and I would be devastated if they were taken from me so senselessly. This goes for the black females in my life as well. So I will stand with them and demand for justice and equality.

That decision has created tension and ended some of my friendships with friends outside of my race. And in the coming months, I have a feeling I’m going to lose more. It is unfortunate and sad. But when I see wrong, I’m going to point it out. Luckily, I have reached some friends and proud to say that they stand with me. And for that, I can’t thank them enough. There are the good, the bad, and the clueless on both sides. Just like, not all blacks are criminals. Not all whites are racists. Click here for perfect example.  So any man that I date, is going to be sensitive to our plight or he can get to stepping. And that goes for my friends too. Because you better believe that if black cops were killing blonde, blue-eyed white people just for being blonde and blue-eyed, I’d be calling or texting my friends asking if they’re okay and if they’re staying safe. And I’d stand by them in a heartbeat. Just like I stood against and condemned Trump for his racist and xenophobic remarks about Mexicans and Muslims. So as friends and/or lovers, if I can’t get that same level of caring in return… Bye!

I’ve also seen that a few of my IR author friends and avid readers are feeling conflicted writing and reading Interracial Romance in these trying times. I even had to collect myself and stepped back from my own story I was writing. But to my IR community, I say, don’t feel guilty for reading or writing about Swirling relationships. The majority of us authors aren’t writing about racist A-holes. We’re writing non-black men who love and cherish their black women. And there is nothing wrong with that.

And to anyone wondering, “Wow! She’s changed.”  Or, “Wait! Doesn’t she date and write about white men?” No, I haven’t changed. I just didn’t talk to you about my struggles because I didn’t want to make you uncomfortable. And the internet as well as social media has made the world smaller, so in turn my eyes have been opened. Yours should too. And yes, I date white men or other races, but that’s because my heart is wide open to love everyone. My love has no limits. Maybe yours shouldn’t either.