In this installment of Insightful Saturdays, I’d like to continue the discussion about our bodies and physical health.
More and more lately, people feel that they have the right to bash, insult, or give unwanted advice about someone else’s body. Particularly, women’s bodies. Social media has made it seem almost acceptable to anonymously talk smack about women that aren’t society’s idea of beautiful. Especially, overweight women.
First of all, less than 5% of women actually achieve the media’s beauty standard. So for those who are opening their mouths to speak on someone else’s body, what issues do you have? What parts of your body are flabby, boney, wonky, or “undesirable”? Hmm? Let’s not throw stones at glass houses, por favor.
Second, you have no idea what is going on in that person’s life. Maybe they just lost a loved one and the only way they coped was through food. Possibly they learned they had a medical issue and had to take medication that caused weight gain. Or what if they were 500 lbs and now they’re 300 and they’re wearing something they never would’ve been able to wear at 500 lbs. That’s an amazing accomplishment to have lost 200 lbs and here you come calling them names and being cruel, when they’re actually working hard on the very thing you’re teasing them over.
Or you know what? Maybe, just possibly, they are happy just as they are. You pretending as if you truly care about this stranger’s health, in the end still isn’t any of your concern or business. NEWSFLASH!!! MOST OVERWEIGHT PEOPLE KNOW IT CAN BE UNHEALTHY! But for whatever reason they either can’t lose the weight, don’t want to lose the weight, or aren’t ready to lose the weight. Trust me, when they are ready, they will change. And it more than likely won’t be because some douchebag called them a fatty and told them to kill themselves.
Third, just because someone is overweight, does not make them quite as unhealthy or out of shape as you may think. And just because a person is slender, does not mean they are the pinnacle of good health and fitness. In the 6th and 7th grade, I was overweight and I was on the basketball team and ran cross-country, respectively. In gym class in high school, I had just as much if not more stamina than the more slender girls in class. The size 16 model Ashley Graham went head to head with a size 2 model in a health test. Ashley beat the slender model in three out of four health tests and only scored one point lower than the slender model in the fourth test. Ashley said that she eats relatively healthy and works out regularly. While the slender model admitted to not working out at all.
A prime example of someone that is naturally slender and someone that easily gains weight is one of my best friends, who shall remain nameless, and her husband. She has always been very slender, but can put away some serious food and not the healthy kind either. Before she and her husband got together, he was at a normal weight. The weekend of their wedding a few years ago, she told me that he was self-conscious of his weight because he’d gained since being with her while she remained the same. I visited them recently and he had gotten even heavier and she was, of course, still the same. He eats what she eats. Her activities are similar to his. Her husband is literally a direct reflection of what her insides look like. Being naturally slender isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. At least my body tells me that I’m being unhealthy when I step on that scale. Without any indicators, how do you know you’ve got fat building up around your heart?
If you’re really that concerned with everyone’s health like you pretend to be when you see someone overweight, then make sure you tell your skinny friend that eats shit and sits around doing nothing the same thing that you’d tell your fat friend. Because I’m almost positive that 80% of every group of friends has that one unhealthy skinny friend and the fat friend. How many of you are bypassing the skinny friend to reprimand your fat friend?
I, myself have taken the steps to become a healthier more active person this year. And it has less to do with weight and more to do with just being healthier in general. My goal isn’t even to be skinny. It’s to get back to a size 13/14, because I personally loved the way I looked then, at a time that I didn’t appreciate it. I was healthier than some of my slender friends and though I believe women of all shapes and sizes are beautiful, I personally think a woman with meat on her bones is more attractive than not. Which is why I made this meme…
In fact, I have a Thickspiration board on Pinterest. And you wanna know which pic is most saved or repinned by guys?
That girl is thicker than a hamhock without a single bone protruding from her body. So you all can keep on bashing bigger women, but just remember…there is someone for everybody.
If you’re coming in on Chapter 37 of my story, you have no business trying to leave a review of the whole book. Go find yourself some Cliff Notes and try to get up to speed. Or just wait for the movie.
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